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Fighting Back Against Depression - 1
You may have read a post I did a little while ago where I pointed out the importance of having breaks from your routine. If you're...

Nicolas Spooner
Aug 18, 20203 min read
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Bereavement for the 'COVID Generation'
Everybody that has suffered a bereavement, and the subsequent grief that follows it, has a unique experience. Everything you have ever...

Nicolas Spooner
Jul 28, 20202 min read
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Why 'Baby Steps' are Better for Progress
You know you want to move forwards but something is stopping you. A block in your life that you are struggling to get around. A lot of...

Nicolas Spooner
Jul 13, 20204 min read
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How Does Counselling Actually Work?
There are many ways to frame the question. "What happens in counselling?" "What is counselling?" "How will counselling help me?" I,...

Nicolas Spooner
Jul 9, 20203 min read
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Have events made your life the way it is?
Everything that has ever happened in your life, good or bad, has had an impact on how things are for you right now. Some things are very...

Nicolas Spooner
Jun 26, 20204 min read
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Will the effects of working with Covid19 be like dealing with bereavement?
This is not going to be a post talking about what it's like to be working in a hospital or care home just now in the middle of the...

Nicolas Spooner
May 13, 20204 min read
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Counsellors offering discounted rates? Good or bad?
At the height of the lockdown I, like many other counsellors all over the UK, offered drastically reduced cost or even free online...

Nicolas Spooner
May 8, 20203 min read
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How Does Online Counselling Work?
Here are some the advantages, of conducting Online Counselling that you may not appreciate.. Firstly, you need to understand what is...

Nicolas Spooner
Apr 9, 20203 min read
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How can you motivate yourself more effectively?
Have you ever seen a motivational quote? You know the sorts of things I mean. "If you believe in yourself then anything is possible." or...

Nicolas Spooner
Feb 19, 20203 min read
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Why are pre-therapy assessments so important?
Before commencing a programme of therapy, it is important to establish a number of things before the final decision is made to go ahead....

Nicolas Spooner
Dec 2, 20193 min read
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The benefits of playing sports on a child's development.
I can still remember my reaction the first time I witnessed a 'non-competitive' school sports day. It was one of confusion and also some...

Nicolas Spooner
Nov 26, 20193 min read
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Are weekly sessions the best idea?
People that embark on a programme of therapy tend to go once a week. It’s a nice sensible arrangement and allows both the therapist and...

Nicolas Spooner
Nov 20, 20194 min read
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Why do people struggle in certain situations? - The 'Book Case' analogy.
When we are younger we are slowly but surely instilled with the qualities and values that we take forward into adulthood. Good or bad we...

Nicolas Spooner
Oct 24, 20195 min read
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What is Couples Counselling?
Couples counselling or relationship counselling is exactly what it says. Counselling - for couples. If you are of a certain age (I am...

Nicolas Spooner
Oct 11, 20192 min read
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How can Counselling help? - The 'Bad Day' Analogy
It doesn't matter whether a person is a believer in the benefits of counselling, someone who refuses to believe in it or a person that is...

Nicolas Spooner
Sep 4, 20195 min read
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If routine is good, why do we need holidays?
Even the most fervent supporter of living 'in the moment' and 'just taking one day at a time' will still benefit from some sort of...

Nicolas Spooner
Jul 31, 20193 min read
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Are they really better than you?
Picture the scene.... You're having a tough day. Maybe even a tough week or month. Everything you do or say seems to go wrong. Maybe work...

Nicolas Spooner
Jul 8, 20194 min read
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Being selfish can be good.
Selfishness is generally not considered to be a great quality in a person. In fact you'll find that most people are in agreement that its...

Nicolas Spooner
Jun 19, 20194 min read
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Following your own advice
Have you ever given great advice? A friend is having problems and turns to you for some sort of support. You listen to them and try to be...

Nicolas Spooner
Jun 7, 20194 min read
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The power of music and memories
Last week I was lucky enough to attend a concert to see Mark Knopfler. For those of you not of a certain age or musical inclination, this...

Nicolas Spooner
May 24, 20196 min read
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Life lessons from a DIY project.
Please bear with me on this post. I promise you this is not meant as an excuse to show off my severely lacking skills when it comes to...

Nicolas Spooner
May 9, 20198 min read
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Different behaviour will result in a different life.
If you want things to be different then do something different. It's a pretty good rule of thumb and strangely obvious. Yet a surprising...

Nicolas Spooner
Apr 24, 20193 min read
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Take notice of what you tell yourself.
Only people with the toughest of exteriors can claim that they take absolutely no notice of what people say to them or about them. In...

Nicolas Spooner
Apr 16, 20193 min read
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Is Counselling Worth The Money?
This really is not a sraight-forward question. It very much depends who you ask. Speak to a person who's life turned around after...

Nicolas Spooner
Apr 3, 20194 min read
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