Nicolas Spooner
What is the 'Real Self' and 'Ideal Self'?
Thinking about 'who you are' can be a challenge. On the surface it may start out as a straight forward exercise. I'm a parent. I'm a...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Jan 14
- 2 min
It's Not Just a Death That Can Trigger Bereavement.
First of all, let's begin with a definition of 'Bereavement. According to CollinsDictionary.com, "Bereavement is the sorrow you feel or...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Nov 17, 2021
- 3 min
How Do I know I Can Trust My Counsellor?
There is a lot to consider when you're choosing a counsellor and most people would agree that you don't just simply pick the first one...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Nov 4, 2021
- 3 min
Change your reactions - not your past
If you have plucked up the courage to go to a counsellor and find yourself revisiting some painful memories from your past, you really...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Sep 1, 2021
- 2 min
Going back to normal can make things worse.
It was the moment everyone was waiting for. The announcement that restrictions were being lifted. Finally we can all go back to pubs,...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Aug 30, 2021
- 5 min
Shunning is one of the reasons Ex Jehovah's Witness Counselling is so vital?
Ex Jehovah's Witnesses need specialist counselling for their problems. Especially to deal with being shunned by everyone they love.
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Nicolas Spooner
- Apr 7, 2021
- 4 min
5 Ways To Help Battle Your Depression
According to the mental health charity, MIND, in a study published in June 2020, each year 1 in 4 people in England will suffer with...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Nov 25, 2020
- 3 min
Lockdown Heaps More Misery On The Most Vulnerable
Try to imagine being at your lowest ebb. At a point where everything seems against you and it feels as if nothing is going right for you....
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Nicolas Spooner
- Nov 24, 2020
- 4 min
What Is Competitive Grief And How Do You Deal With It?
Firstly, before we can consider how to deal with Competitive Grief, we need to understand what it is. A very simplistic way of looking at...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Nov 5, 2020
- 4 min
Why The New Lockdown Could Be Worse This Time Around
November 5th marks the day that we, here in England, start a four-week long 'Lockdown'. Again, bars, restaurants and leisure facilities...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Oct 29, 2020
- 2 min
Couples Counselling - It's not about assigning blame.
Some people have some very strong opinions about couples counselling. Not surprisingly, some of the strongest opinions tend to come from...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Oct 27, 2020
- 2 min
Remind yourself - It's Not Your Fault!
This is a powerful statement to direct at yourself. If you are feeling low, depressed, sad, desperate, anxious, scared, or anything else,...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Oct 21, 2020
- 2 min
Why The First Year Of Grief Is Often The Worst
There are no rules when it comes to dealing with grief after a loss. Each person will deal with it in their own unique way. Some will...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Oct 13, 2020
- 3 min
Three Words That Could Help You Find A Chink Of Light In The Darkness Of Grief
If you have ever suffered a significant loss, you will likely have an understanding of the darkness and feelings of hopelessness that...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Oct 8, 2020
- 4 min
What happens when people forget about the person you lost?
If you have suffered the loss of someone you are close to, there is a good chance that you have experienced what I am about to describe....
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Nicolas Spooner
- Sep 30, 2020
- 3 min
Will The Second Covid Wave Cause Greater Anxiety This Time Around?
It is widely accepted that general anxiety, depression and overall mental health has been adversely affected since the Covid lockdown was...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Sep 16, 2020
- 4 min
Fighting Back Against Depression - 3
The fight against your depression may be the hardest thing you do in your entire life. There is no such thing as a guaranteed antidote...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Sep 10, 2020
- 3 min
How Do You Deal With Your Stress, Anxiety Or Depression?
If you are currently struggling with anxiety, depression or stress than read on. So many areas of your life are likely to have been...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Sep 4, 2020
- 3 min
Fighting Back Against Depression - 2
Here is a suggestion that can work for some people in their fight against depression. I am going to assume that anyone that has real...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Aug 25, 2020
- 5 min
Dealing with Grief and Loss
The first thing I want to say to you is that my heart goes out to you. The pain of grief after a loss is unimaginable. It's only when you...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Aug 18, 2020
- 3 min
Fighting Back Against Depression - 1
You may have read a post I did a little while ago where I pointed out the importance of having breaks from your routine. If you're...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Jul 28, 2020
- 2 min
Bereavement for the 'COVID Generation'
Everybody that has suffered a bereavement, and the subsequent grief that follows it, has a unique experience. Everything you have ever...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Jul 13, 2020
- 4 min
Why 'Baby Steps' are Better for Progress
You know you want to move forwards but something is stopping you. A block in your life that you are struggling to get around. A lot of...
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Nicolas Spooner
- Jul 9, 2020
- 3 min
How Does Counselling Actually Work?
There are many ways to frame the question. "What happens in counselling?" "What is counselling?" "How will counselling help me?" I,...
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