Nicolas Spooner
What can I expect from EMDR therapy?
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) was developed by Francine Shapiro in the late 1980s and evolved from her...
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Nicolas Spooner
Sep 7, 20233 min read
The Effects of Domestic Abuse and Coercive Control
Abuse is not limited to physical violence; it often begins quite subtly with emotional manipulation and control that can be hard to identify
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Nicolas Spooner
Mar 29, 20234 min read
A Different Way To View Grief
Dealing with loss is something that most of us have to encounter at some point in our lives. Whether it is the loss of a relationship, a...
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Nicolas Spooner
Aug 24, 20223 min read
Will I ever get over the loss?
This may be the most asked question among people that have experienced a significant death in their life. The pain can be crippling and...
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Nicolas Spooner
Jan 21, 20224 min read
What is the 'Real Self' and 'Ideal Self'?
Thinking about 'who you are' can be a challenge. On the surface it may start out as a straight forward exercise. I'm a parent. I'm a...
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Nicolas Spooner
Jan 14, 20222 min read
It's Not Just a Death That Can Trigger Bereavement.
First of all, let's begin with a definition of 'Bereavement. According to CollinsDictionary.com, "Bereavement is the sorrow you feel or...
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Nicolas Spooner
Nov 17, 20213 min read
How Do I know I Can Trust My Counsellor?
There is a lot to consider when you're choosing a counsellor and most people would agree that you don't just simply pick the first one...
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Nicolas Spooner
Nov 4, 20213 min read
Change your reactions - not your past
If you have plucked up the courage to go to a counsellor and find yourself revisiting some painful memories from your past, you really...
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Nicolas Spooner
Sep 1, 20212 min read
Going back to normal can make things worse.
It was the moment everyone was waiting for. The announcement that restrictions were being lifted. Finally we can all go back to pubs,...
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Nicolas Spooner
Aug 30, 20215 min read
Shunning is one of the reasons Ex Jehovah's Witness Counselling is so vital?
Ex Jehovah's Witnesses need specialist counselling for their problems. Especially to deal with being shunned by everyone they love.
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Nicolas Spooner
Apr 7, 20214 min read
5 Ways To Help Battle Your Depression
According to the mental health charity, MIND, in a study published in June 2020, each year 1 in 4 people in England will suffer with...
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Nicolas Spooner
Nov 25, 20203 min read
Lockdown Heaps More Misery On The Most Vulnerable
Try to imagine being at your lowest ebb. At a point where everything seems against you and it feels as if nothing is going right for you....
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Nicolas Spooner
Nov 24, 20204 min read
What Is Competitive Grief And How Do You Deal With It?
Firstly, before we can consider how to deal with Competitive Grief, we need to understand what it is. A very simplistic way of looking at...
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Nicolas Spooner
Nov 5, 20204 min read
Why The New Lockdown Could Be Worse This Time Around
November 5th marks the day that we, here in England, start a four-week long 'Lockdown'. Again, bars, restaurants and leisure facilities...
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Nicolas Spooner
Oct 29, 20202 min read
Couples Counselling - It's not about assigning blame.
Some people have some very strong opinions about couples counselling. Not surprisingly, some of the strongest opinions tend to come from...
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Nicolas Spooner
Oct 27, 20202 min read
Remind yourself - It's Not Your Fault!
This is a powerful statement to direct at yourself. If you are feeling low, depressed, sad, desperate, anxious, scared, or anything else,...
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Nicolas Spooner
Oct 21, 20202 min read
Why The First Year Of Grief Is Often The Worst
There are no rules when it comes to dealing with grief after a loss. Each person will deal with it in their own unique way. Some will...
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Nicolas Spooner
Oct 13, 20203 min read
Three Words That Could Help You Find A Chink Of Light In The Darkness Of Grief
If you have ever suffered a significant loss, you will likely have an understanding of the darkness and feelings of hopelessness that...
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Nicolas Spooner
Oct 8, 20204 min read
What happens when people forget about the person you lost?
If you have suffered the loss of someone you are close to, there is a good chance that you have experienced what I am about to describe....
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Nicolas Spooner
Sep 30, 20203 min read
Will The Second Covid Wave Cause Greater Anxiety This Time Around?
It is widely accepted that general anxiety, depression and overall mental health has been adversely affected since the Covid lockdown was...
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Nicolas Spooner
Sep 16, 20204 min read
Fighting Back Against Depression - 3
The fight against your depression may be the hardest thing you do in your entire life. There is no such thing as a guaranteed antidote...
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Nicolas Spooner
Sep 10, 20203 min read
How Do You Deal With Your Stress, Anxiety Or Depression?
If you are currently struggling with anxiety, depression or stress than read on. So many areas of your life are likely to have been...
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Nicolas Spooner
Sep 4, 20203 min read
Fighting Back Against Depression - 2
Here is a suggestion that can work for some people in their fight against depression. I am going to assume that anyone that has real...
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Nicolas Spooner
Aug 25, 20205 min read
Dealing with Grief and Loss
The first thing I want to say to you is that my heart goes out to you. The pain of grief after a loss is unimaginable. It's only when you...
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