Nicolas SpoonerJan 214 minWhat is the 'Real Self' and 'Ideal Self'?Thinking about 'who you are' can be a challenge. On the surface it may start out as a straight forward exercise. I'm a parent. I'm a...
Nicolas SpoonerJan 142 minIt's Not Just a Death That Can Trigger Bereavement.First of all, let's begin with a definition of 'Bereavement. According to CollinsDictionary.com, "Bereavement is the sorrow you feel or...
Nicolas SpoonerNov 17, 20213 minHow Do I know I Can Trust My Counsellor?There is a lot to consider when you're choosing a counsellor and most people would agree that you don't just simply pick the first one...
Nicolas SpoonerNov 4, 20213 minChange your reactions - not your pastIf you have plucked up the courage to go to a counsellor and find yourself revisiting some painful memories from your past, you really...
Nicolas SpoonerSep 1, 20212 minGoing back to normal can make things worse.It was the moment everyone was waiting for. The announcement that restrictions were being lifted. Finally we can all go back to pubs,...
Nicolas SpoonerAug 30, 20215 minShunning is one of the reasons Ex Jehovah's Witness Counselling is so vital?Ex Jehovah's Witnesses need specialist counselling for their problems. Especially to deal with being shunned by everyone they love.
Nicolas SpoonerApr 7, 20214 min5 Ways To Help Battle Your DepressionAccording to the mental health charity, MIND, in a study published in June 2020, each year 1 in 4 people in England will suffer with...
Nicolas SpoonerNov 25, 20203 minLockdown Heaps More Misery On The Most VulnerableTry to imagine being at your lowest ebb. At a point where everything seems against you and it feels as if nothing is going right for you....
Nicolas SpoonerNov 24, 20204 minWhat Is Competitive Grief And How Do You Deal With It?Firstly, before we can consider how to deal with Competitive Grief, we need to understand what it is. A very simplistic way of looking at...
Nicolas SpoonerNov 5, 20204 minWhy The New Lockdown Could Be Worse This Time AroundNovember 5th marks the day that we, here in England, start a four-week long 'Lockdown'. Again, bars, restaurants and leisure facilities...
Nicolas SpoonerOct 29, 20202 minCouples Counselling - It's not about assigning blame.Some people have some very strong opinions about couples counselling. Not surprisingly, some of the strongest opinions tend to come from...
Nicolas SpoonerOct 27, 20202 minRemind yourself - It's Not Your Fault!This is a powerful statement to direct at yourself. If you are feeling low, depressed, sad, desperate, anxious, scared, or anything else,...
Nicolas SpoonerOct 21, 20202 minWhy The First Year Of Grief Is Often The WorstThere are no rules when it comes to dealing with grief after a loss. Each person will deal with it in their own unique way. Some will...
Nicolas SpoonerOct 13, 20203 minThree Words That Could Help You Find A Chink Of Light In The Darkness Of GriefIf you have ever suffered a significant loss, you will likely have an understanding of the darkness and feelings of hopelessness that...
Nicolas SpoonerOct 8, 20204 minWhat happens when people forget about the person you lost?If you have suffered the loss of someone you are close to, there is a good chance that you have experienced what I am about to describe....
Nicolas SpoonerSep 30, 20203 minWill The Second Covid Wave Cause Greater Anxiety This Time Around?It is widely accepted that general anxiety, depression and overall mental health has been adversely affected since the Covid lockdown was...
Nicolas SpoonerSep 16, 20204 minFighting Back Against Depression - 3The fight against your depression may be the hardest thing you do in your entire life. There is no such thing as a guaranteed antidote...
Nicolas SpoonerSep 10, 20203 minHow Do You Deal With Your Stress, Anxiety Or Depression?If you are currently struggling with anxiety, depression or stress than read on. So many areas of your life are likely to have been...
Nicolas SpoonerSep 4, 20203 minFighting Back Against Depression - 2Here is a suggestion that can work for some people in their fight against depression. I am going to assume that anyone that has real...
Nicolas SpoonerAug 25, 20205 minDealing with Grief and LossThe first thing I want to say to you is that my heart goes out to you. The pain of grief after a loss is unimaginable. It's only when you...
Nicolas SpoonerAug 18, 20203 minFighting Back Against Depression - 1You may have read a post I did a little while ago where I pointed out the importance of having breaks from your routine. If you're...
Nicolas SpoonerJul 28, 20202 minBereavement for the 'COVID Generation'Everybody that has suffered a bereavement, and the subsequent grief that follows it, has a unique experience. Everything you have ever...
Nicolas SpoonerJul 13, 20204 minWhy 'Baby Steps' are Better for ProgressYou know you want to move forwards but something is stopping you. A block in your life that you are struggling to get around. A lot of...
Nicolas SpoonerJul 9, 20203 minHow Does Counselling Actually Work?There are many ways to frame the question. "What happens in counselling?" "What is counselling?" "How will counselling help me?" I,...